Race...

My girlfriend just got her first…what should I call it…disapproving message about our relationship. And no, it wasn’t because we are both females, it was because I am black and she is white.

"I can't help but disapprove of interracial relationships. It just seems weird in my head, and makes for funny looking couples to me. I feel really bad about it, and try to not be that way, but I just CAN'T. I also have never been attracted to a person outside of my race. The facial features are just too different and foreign to me. I've tried before; I know some are perfectly nice people I might be compatible with. There is just zero attraction there for me. It makes me feel like such a racist, but try as I might I can't change it. I hope you and your girlfriend all the best of luck and you really seem happy together and wish I could look past race like that." - Annon.

I don’t know how to react to it. I want to be mad because they are judging us. But at the same time who am I to get mad, because in turn I judging their beliefs or rather more appropriately their thoughts? Like Bob once said…Bob Marley that is…

“Who are you to judge the life I live? I know I'm not perfect and I don't live to be. But, before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean.”
She, as was I, were both brought up to only see people. We were raised to see past the color of skin, amongst other things which are irrelevant to this entry. Every time I look at her I never think about the color of her skin, I never think twice about how we look in other people’s eyes. I guess I was naïve that we wouldn’t raise eyebrows. I guess I was naïve that everyone would automatically be accepting. I guess the first think it thought that would be seen as ‘disapproving’ was the fact that we were both girls. I guess I was wrong.

Now I can’t help but wonder…when we get looked at walking down the street hand in hand - are they looking at me funny because I am embracing someone the way I am and they happen to e a girl…or are they looking at me funny because we are an inter-racial couple?

I guess I just wish people were more open-minded…